Honest guides, real-world advice, and expert resources for couples exploring ethical non-monogamy — from your very first conversation to your hundredth club night.
Start HereThe swinging lifestyle can feel overwhelming at first — the terminology, the etiquette, the sheer number of questions running through your mind. That's exactly why we built SwingsSpace. Whether you're a curious couple who just had "the talk" or seasoned players looking for better resources, this is your home base.
At its core, swinging is a form of consensual non-monogamy where committed couples engage in sexual or romantic activities with other consenting adults — together. Unlike other forms of open relationships, swinging typically emphasizes shared experiences. Both partners are involved, informed, and enthusiastic. It's not about replacing your relationship; it's about expanding it on terms you both agree to.
Every experienced couple in the lifestyle will tell you the same thing: communication is everything. Before you create a profile, visit a club, or meet another couple, you and your partner need to have candid conversations about boundaries, desires, fears, and expectations. This isn't a one-time discussion — it's an ongoing dialogue that evolves with your experience. We've created in-depth guides on how to have these conversations without it turning into an argument.
Most couples start by creating a profile on one of the major swinging platforms — we recommend SLS and SDC as your starting points. From there, you can browse profiles, attend local meetups, or visit a lifestyle club. There's no pressure to do anything physical at your own pace. Observation is completely valid, and most veteran swingers will tell you their first club visit was spent simply watching and getting comfortable with the environment.
The lifestyle community takes consent and discretion extremely seriously. Use a separate email for your profiles, never share identifying information early, and remember that "no" is a complete sentence — for you and for everyone you meet. Regular STI testing, barrier use, and honest health conversations are non-negotiable parts of responsible play. We cover all of this in detail across our safety guides.
Ready to go deeper? Explore our topic guides below, or jump straight to our recommended platforms to create your first profile.
From first-timer fundamentals to advanced lifestyle strategies, we've organized everything into the topics that matter most.
Everything you need to know before your first experience — from having the initial conversation to navigating your first club visit.
Unbiased, hands-on reviews and comparisons of the top swinging platforms, apps, and communities for couples.
City-by-city guides to the best lifestyle clubs, resorts, and events — so you always know where to go.
Practical wisdom on everything from managing jealousy and setting boundaries to what to wear and how to flirt as a couple.
Responsible play is non-negotiable. Our guides cover STI prevention, consent practices, digital privacy, and emotional aftercare.
Strengthening your partnership through the lifestyle — jealousy management, aftercare rituals, and keeping your connection front and center.
These are the platforms we personally use and recommend. Both offer free profiles — we suggest signing up for both to maximize your reach.
The longest-running and most widely-used swinging platform with an enormous membership base across the US and internationally. Strong event listings, club directories, and active forums. Free profiles are functional, but a paid upgrade unlocks the full experience.
Create Free Profile →A modern platform with a rapidly growing international membership and a sleek interface. Excellent for couples who travel or want to connect with lifestyle communities worldwide. Strong event and travel features make it a favorite among experienced swingers.
Create Free Profile →A printable PDF bundle designed for couples just getting started — everything you need to go from curious to confident.